Sex.
A single word that can make you blush when you talk about it or squirming in delicious pleasure when you’re experiencing it.
But when it relates to your children, you’d rather have them learn in school, than use the words like vulva, penis and erection when talking to your kids about sex.
It’s uncomfortable for so many.
We have good intentions, but then word vomit comes out something like…”Honey, errr….uh…. hmmm… well I’d like to talk to you about umm….the birds and bees; ah….you know what that means right?”
Sound familiar?
And yet… we all love sex.
We all want our kids to grow up in a healthy relationship.
We all want our kids to feel confident saying yes and no.
We all want out children to accept and love their bodies.
We all want our children to trust their intuition.
We all want out kids to have a healthy sexual experience.
It’s awkward… because we make it awkward in our society.
Let’s change that.
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When I asked parents when is the right time for them to begin to talk to their kids about sex, I often heard…
“Oh I’ll talk to them when I’m ready.”
“I’ll talk to them about sex when they ask.”
“Maybe around age 10, 11 or 12 or when they go through puberty.”
The problem with that is… the longer you wait the more the children are missing out on! Sex talks are not just about about sex. They are about boundaries, consent, body image, confidence, health, intuition, values, sensuality and creativity. Plus, kids will learn about it elsewhere (unreliable kids at school, porn or social media).
Parents, why wouldn’t you want to be the trusted source for your kids to help them develop, relationally and sexually.